#Survival, it comes at a price. #mentalabuse, #emotionalabuse #physicalabuse #sexualabuse Is not okay!

Survival, it comes at a price. ‘Becoming a survivor was a choice’.

Coming to Amazon Dec 2020, a compilation of stories and poetry, sometimes we experience situations in life that test our patience, some may fall and find it hard to get back up, some are so mentally scarred it can change their outlook on life and their perception of those around them.

Mental, emotional, physical and or sexual abuse can have such a serious impact on those on the receiving end, but it also has an effect on those around them, trust becomes an issue, loyalty can become an issue as well as anger, hate and much more besides.

To talk to someone about the abuse one is suffering and or suffered can be extremely difficult, the individual on the receiving end of abuse feeling that somehow they are at fault, preventing them from talking to those who can help as well as being afraid that if they do the consequences will be much worse.

Survival, it comes at a price was written in the hope that it may help give inspiration to others, some of the poetry and stories relating to my past experiences helped put my own demons to bed, some of which I had written several years ago, and some of the poems were published in my first book of poetry ‘Tears On My Pillow’ (Available on Amazon).

There are choices, although we don’t realise this at the time, because fear rules our head. I survived, and you can too, abuse of any kind is NOT OKAY! However, it IS OKAY to talk to someone, it is okay to ask for help.

Survival, it comes at a price is not all doom and gloom, there are happy memories and sentiments too, and I will be donating a percentage of the books sales to charity, I will be talking to charities namely those who support victims of abuse including children.

Once I have confirmed the charity who will be receiving the donations I will update here on the website, the book will be available from Amazon worldwide and here on the website.

(Why I decided to write; Survival, it comes at a price)

As an advocate and supporter of the survivors of the former mother and baby homes/institutions run by religious orders, and through research and my discovering the atrocities and abuse that took place then and even now, which I have to add is so appalling, I wanted to go further than just writing my previous published book, Behind Closed Doors ‘The Baby Brokers’ (Available on Amazon, worldwide) Also with donations being made to (Facebook Group) WE ARE STILL HERE who are the survivors of Sean Ross Abbey, Roscrea, Tipperary.

Several months ago I learned that my abuser, (Who I always felt would go on to abuse other children) Was sentenced in 2016 to fourteen years for the rape and abuse of others. Something that I told to only two people later in my life, but knowing now that he has been caught I no longer have to keep that secret.

If I can help prevent even one child from being abused, or even just one woman/man from being at the other end of a fist, then I know I have done something right, although I do plan to help more than one woman/man and child.

Those who follow me here, on https://twitter.com/BelindaConniss7 on https://facebook.com/belindaconnisspublishedauthor and https://facebook.com/sofatalkmedia and or my sister website belindaconnissofficial.org will by now know that I am in pre-production of my forthcoming documentary, filming begins in Tipperary April 2021. Assuming it is safe to do so with COVID-19 and (Government Guidelines) as it had to be rescheduled from April 2020.

I am also researching and investigating several other former religiously run institutions for future podcasts and documentaries for which I am currently speaking with individuals who were incarcerated in such, I will be traveling down south once it’s safe to do so to speak with one gentleman whom I already have some of his story and who was in the former Smyllum Park Orphanage in Lanark, more of this will be updated in due course.

If there is anyone who has had a connection to any of the above and or other, and who would like to speak to me about their own story then please get in touch with me here on the contact form or private mail me on social media.

Your details and or story will be private in the first instance, if you wish to appear on future podcasts and or documentaries then let me know, if you wish to remain anonymous that can be arranged too, any correspondence between you and I will remain private.

It is ok to not be ok!

It is ok to say NO!

It is ok to seek help!

It is ok to talk to someone you trust!

It is ok to talk to me!

So, #letstalk

YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

SOFA TALK MEDIA

#BookReview Unfinished Business – Putting the conspiracy to rest.

Unfinished Business by Paul Ferris – Stuart Wheatman, Steve Wraith and paying tribute to Reg McKay (May He Rest In Peace)

I’ve always had a fascination and love of gangster movies and books from as far back as I can remember, as a youngster I used to watch them and think “I wish my dad was the Godfather or I wish I had an older brother who was a gangster”  I loved the idea of being protected by someone with such a title.

I’ve just finished reading ‘Unfinished Business’ by Paul Ferris It’s only taken me like three days not because I’m a slow reader, far from it, but picture the scenario.

I received the book, excitement kicks in so, I start reading it right away, it’s got me right from the start and I can’t put it down, Oops, I better get my finger out my daughter is due home from work soon and I haven’t even started preparing dinner.

So, that’s how it’s been for the last three days, picking it up again reading as much as I can  in between cleaning the house, cooking, tending to my dogs driving to the airport to pick up my cousin who has flown over from California for our youngest daughters 18th birthday party this coming weekend, now I can’t read anymore or my cousin will think I’m ignoring her.

Itching to start reading again I go to bed I’m up into the wee small hours, then I need to stop again and get some sleep, wake up back to the airport to pick my hubby up who has flew home Kosovo (He works for the United Nations)

I’ve only got a little bit to go but I can’t just ignore that I’ve not seen my hubby in a month, Saturday morning now he has gone to golf, Wahayy, and I’ve just finished reading the book.

For the many stories and some that have been pretty horrific, written by the press about Paul Ferris much to the annoyance I’m sure of Paul and his family I recommended you read ‘Unfinished Business’

There is a saying that we have all heard that goes ‘Never judge a book by its cover’ and bearing in mind some newspapers are guilty of needing to fill spaces and have exaggerated many a story in order to fill that space, not to mention the heading which very often is solely to catch the eye of the reader, resulting in a sale.

In Unfinished Business you are hearing it straight from the man himself and while I get that there will be many who will come back with, Yeh Right! If you believe that? Well, hang on, you just bought the book right?

I understand much of what Paul describes about his life growing up in Glasgow it was and still is in many parts rough and for some, survival is very much a part of every day life.

I remember some of what went on back then and still remember stories about my own family being involved in situations, I think though the worst from one side of my family being, my great-grandmother, who was a money lender and who had people knee-capped if the money was late or not paid back. (Definitely not something I was proud to hear) I guess because she was a woman it made it more shocking.

I only found out in the last eighteen years who my biological father was then finding out that I am related to the late Johnny Stark (Not his real surname) and since looking more into the world of crime particularly Glasgow Crime I have come to understand just why some individuals behaved the way they did, like I said and Paul touched on it too, it was a case of survival and looking out for number one.

While I don’t condone some of the tactics used in gangland Glasgow or gangland anywhere, I get it!

Getting back to Unfinished Business, I can tell that Paul is like most of us going about his daily life respectfully and while like many of us, has paid the pied piper for his sins, I think people should take the plank out of their own eye before pointing at the sawdust in his.

While Paul sets the record straight and puts to bed some of those rumours, Yes, Rumours! because not all that you read about or heard about was factual, why would he lie? His life of crime was way back in the day.

There is humour within his story and lets face it, if you didn’t laugh you’d be pretty much on a downward spiral especially being locked up in the likes of Barlinnie Prison trust me I know, but I don’t have to go into the details, this is not my story, perhaps one day I will tell those stories.

I have to hand it to Paul though, he is a very witty man you can tell by the style in which he tells his story, indeed it was a very enjoyable read and I’m looking forward to future publications.

I also would like to mention that I like Stuart Wheatman’s style, the way in which he puts the context in all the right places.

NOTE: I have changed the name Steve Wraith to Stuart Wheatman (see above) My apologies to Stuart for the mix up which I hadn’t noticed until it was pointed out.

However, credit also to Steve Wraith For his part in the story also, his meeting with Paul and as a contributor is what makes for good reading.

As an Author you want someone you can trust not only to ghostwrite your book and or edit it, you want someone who will be honest in telling you what you should and should not include and or were in the book is the right place for a particular part of the story, but most of all who will not judge, after all they are there to do a job.

If you haven’t read Unfinished Business then do so, It will definitely change your prospective of Paul Ferris and help you to understand the corruption that goes on behind the scenes, I’ll say no more on that subject, you will know what I mean after you have read the book.

Published by http://www.mojorisinpublishing.com

Belinda

#Book #Review #MariaTheIrishColleen

Book Review; Maria, The Irish colleen

I’ve been putting this review off for such a long time sadly partly because I have just not had the time to finish the book but also because so many times I was a little put off.

The author herself describes what her life was like growing up in Ireland with many trial and tribulations, and yes, she did indeed endure some pretty horrific situations through-out her life.

I very much enjoyed her story, I felt happy and I laughed but there were sad areas within the book too.

I would happily recommend this book its a great read in so far as the story itself.

However I’m not sure if she had the book copy edited? I did encounter some bad spelling as well as the fact that it was kind of all over the place in respect of the layout/format.

If I could give some constructive advise, it would be to have the book copy edited and formatted by a professional and republished.

I would like to say I wish her well in the future.

Belinda